BOOKS

Divorce and Separation:

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends – Bruce Fisher

What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During and After Divorce– Judith Wallerstein, Sandra Blakesley

How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce, by Jean McBride

Mom’s House, Dad’s House; Making Two Homes for Your Child– Isolina Ricci

Parenting After Divorce: A Guide to Resolving Conflict and Meeting Your Children’s Needs– Philip Stahl

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way– Gary M. Neuman and Patricia Romanowski

The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions so You and Your Children can Thrive- Robert Emery

We’re Still Family– Constance Ahrons (20-year study on adult kids looking back on their parents’ separation/divorce)

Does Wednesday Mean Mom’s House or Dad’s? Marc Ackerman

Keeping Kids Out of the Middle: Child-Centered Parenting in the Midst of Conflict, Separation and Divorce-Ben Garber

Nonviolent Communication; A Language of Life– Marshall Rosenberg

Special Needs Children: Parenting, Divorce:

I Have a Question About Divorce: a Book for Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder or Other Special Needs-Arlen Grad Gaines and Meredith Englander Polsky

Divorce and the Special Needs Child: A Guide for Parents–Margaret Price

Positive Parenting for Autism: Powerful Strategies to Help Your Child Overcome Challenges and Thrive-Victoria Boone

autismempowerment.org

autismspeaks.org

For Parents of Boys:

It’s a Boy! : Your Son’s Development from Birth to Age 18 Michael Thompson, Teresa Barker

Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys– Kindlon & Thompson

The Wonder of Boys – Michael Gurion

Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men-Leonard Sax

For Parents of Girls:

The Wonder of Girls– Michael Gurion

Reviving Ophelia – Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls; Mary Pipher

Girls on the Edge: Why so Many Girls Are Anxious, Wired and Obsessed—And What Parents Can Do– Leonard Sax

For Parents of Pre-Teens and Teens:

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens–Cynthia MacGregor

Getting to CALM; Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting ‘Tweens and Teens– Laura Kastner

Teenagers – Cracking the Code: Answers to Parents’ Top 7 Questions-Michael Leavitt

What Are They Thinking?! : The Straight Facts about the Risk-Taking, Social-Networking, Still-Developing Teen Brain-Aaron White, Scott Swartzwelder

The Primal Teen: What the New Discoveries about the Teenage Brain Tell Us about Our Kids-Barbara Strauch

Positive Discipline for Teenagers-Jane Nelsen

On the Media:

Parent’s Quick Guide to Electronic Addiction, by Jay Berk

Who’s Raising the Kids? Big Tech, Big Business and the Lives of Children, by Susan Linn

CommonSenseMedia.org

Talking Back to Facebook, the Common Sense Guide to Raising Kids in the Digital Age, James Styer

General Parenting:

Parenting From the Inside Out; How a Deeper Self-Understanding can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive; Daniel Siegel, Mary Hartzell

Touchpoints: Your Child’s Emotional and Behavioral Development; T. Berry Brazelton (0-3, 3-6 yrs.)

Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, Birth- Age Five, American Academy of Pediatrics (2014 edition)

Getting to CALM, the Early Years: Cool-Headed Strategies for Raising Caring, Happy and Independent 3-7-Year Olds – Laura Kastner

Love & Logic: Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting From Birth to Six Years – Klein & Fay

Holding Tight/Letting Go: Raising Healthy Kids in Anxious Times– Ben Garber

Positive Discipline; Jane Nelsen (for various ages, pre-schoolers through teens) EXCELLENT

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind-Daniel Siegel

The Power of Showing Up-How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How their Brains Get Wired, Daniel Siegal, Tina Bryson

Siblings Without Rivalry– Faber and Mazlish

Kids Are Worth It; Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline– Barbara Coloroso

Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves- Parenting Our Children-Jean Illsley Clark

Becoming the Parent You Want to Be– Davis and Keyser

Pick Up Your Socks…and Other Skills Growing Children Need-Elizabeth Crary

Voice Lessons for Parents: What to Say, How to Say it, and When to Listen by Wendy Mogel

LGBTQ Resources:

Ruby’s Voice-supporting LGBTQ Families Through Separation, by Holly Tibbetts

The End Of the Rainbow, Same-Sex Marriage and Divorce: Navigate the Divorce Process in Same-Sex Relationships, by Sheri and Stephen Lauritano

What Happens When Moms Divorce: A Book for Divorcing Families with Two Moms, by Sara Olsher

What Happens When Dads Divorce: A Book for Divorcing Families with Two Dads, by Sara Olser

Trauma/Self-care:

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity, Nadine Burke Harris, M.D.

What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing, by Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey

Rewire Your Anxious Brain, by Catherine Pittman

WEBSITES

https://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/children/Documents/BirthThroughThree.pdf

(Birth through three Booklet for parents of children under age 4)

www.babynavigator.com/magic – For parents of children ages birth to 26 month-olds. Month by month growth chart.

Vroom.org – Tools for building your young child’s brain, for parents of children ages five and under

UpToParents.org – free website designed to help divorcing/separated parents heal and support their children.

OurFamilyWizard.com – Co-parenting tool – one place to communicate, keep track of schedules, expenses, etc. also en español.

www.sesamestreet.org/toolkits/divorce – resources for parents, children, extended families and caregivers

Explaining addiction to a child: https://adf.org.au/insights/explaining-addiction-child/#:~:text=Choose%20a%20time%20when%20the,happening%20and%20how%20they%20feel

Nine Traits of Temperament-what makes your child (and you) tick? : https://www.canr.msu.edu/news/the_nine_traits_of_temperament

CommonSenseMedia.org – internet safety and security tips for parents and kids; rates and recommends movies and games